LIFE AT HOME: FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP
OLADOTUN R. ALUKO
Professor Antoinette Plewa
12 Nov 2018
This paper is about family, as in different types of families, about relationships, bonds between blood and how families can come together and share their lives as one.
There is nothing stronger than blood relationship. What is family? Family can have many different meanings. People around the world believe that family can be racial, cultural, social, and many additional aspects. Family has always been the fundamental unit of any social group because it plays the most important roles in the life of every person. It is a bond between or among two or more people who share the same goals and values; who might be related by blood, culture, marriage or adoption. They may not live under one roof, but family members are dependent and have a sense of mutual responsibility (Ferris et al. 2016). Family is the bedrock of all social groups because everything begins with “Family”.
The symbolic interactionists see family as creating new people and teaching cultures and norms. While feminists see family as the domination of male. The males tend to be superior to the females in the home. The females have to do the cooking and other house chores. In some countries like Syria, Afghanistan and some other countries, females are being deprived education because they think the only place they should be is the kitchen. So, feminists define family as a group of people where the male has supreme power over the female. They make decisions and have control over the family finance. Family can either be extended or nuclear based on the size.
Nuclear family is a kind of family which consists of two heterosexuals, usually they are a married couple living under one roof and raising children. In this kind of family there is usually a stronger bond among the members of the family as they tend to interact with strong psychological ties. Extended family is a kind of family which includes the nuclear family and other members of the family such as grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. In this kind of family, there is ultimate care for the children unlike the Nuclear family where the children are mostly left to take care of themselves. Nuclear parents: discipline their children, live in a routine, spend a lot of time together in family activities, eat dinner together, and learn consistency as a family while in extended family, there is usually little, or no privacy and the home feels crowded.
Relationship is any interaction between two or more people either among family members, friends, mates, coworkers and so on. Some people prefer to choose romantic partners who are like them in terms of religion, beliefs, race, nationality and other features, while some prefer the opposite. Despite the kind of family, relationships within them can be many different things, for example homogamy and heterogamy, endogamy and exogamy. Homogamy which is choosing a partner that is similar in religion, culture, belief, personality or social class while heterogamy is choosing partners that are opposite. Likewise, endogamy is marrying from the same ethnic group and exogamy is marrying out of one’s ethnic group. This shows how relationship and family are mostly interrelated because the primary source of relationship is “Family”.
Similarly, there are various forms in which relationships occur. There is monogamy which is the most common form of romantic relationship which is between two people and it is widely acceptable. Also, polygamy; this is when a man marries more than two women. This kind of marriage is mostly practiced by the Muslims and can be seen in countries like India, Dubai, Philippines and Nigeria. This causes hatred and rivalry among members because love, time and money are being shared among several people.
There can be complications among family members which can eventually lead to divorce. “Divorce is the most destructive, emotionally, traumatic, experiences a human being can go through, no matter if you are the instigator or recipient. It is hard, and it hurts, and it takes a long time to feel normal again” (Gordon 2018). The spouses tend to suffer financially and emotionally because burden is no more shared between them and there is no more the feeling of being dependent on someone. The other spouse who isn’t interested in the divorce may suffer from psychological breakdown. But the children tend to suffer more in broken homes because they don’t longer have the feeling of being loved by both parents. They are thereby affected physically, mentally, academically, emotionally and maybe financially. They can end up being stigmatized by the society and treated inferior. Research shows kids with criminal behaviors come from broken homes. This is mostly because they are not properly trained by both parents.
As a result of this, the person in custody of the children might end up remarrying. The new spouse might start abusing the child and. There are several cases of girls being raped and abused by their step fathers because she isnt is. Likewise, if the person in custody is the male and he marries someone else, the new partner may fail to provide adequate nutrition for the children and can domestically abuse them.